Thursday, October 27, 2016

Boots and 15 Years


On October third, we celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary.  It feels so weird to be married for fifteen years.  I remember early in marriage hearing other people talk about 12 or 15 or 17-year anniversaries and thinking, man they’re old.  And now we are there, in all our married glory, right in the middle of all the “old people,” still feeling quite young and energetic.  Sorry to all the decade-older-than-us couples I know—you guys were in that ripe part of marriage ten years ago while I was still stupid and thinking mid-thirty-somethings were ancient.  I love my mid- thirties.  I love being 15 years in.  I finally feel settled into my spirit, even as we look forward to new adventures and wandering paths. 

For the life of us, we could not figure out what to do to make the day special this year.  My mom suggested that we re-do our first date, which is what we ended up doing.  We drove the hour and a half up north to eat at Olive Garden, ordered the same two meals, and watched a movie at the mall.  I loved it because we laughed the whole time and a lot of what we said started with “remember when…”.  A few times during the night, I wanted to go back in time and whisper to my 20-year old self, “Don’t worry.  He likes you.  A lot.  And someday you’ll do this all over again.  Except you won’t be nervous, just totally and absolutely in love.” 

We also bought each other a pair of boots.  I got the girl version and Phil, the guy pair.  We looked at all the different styles together, the colors, reviews, and descriptions.  We shopped intentionally—choosing a shoe company with clear vision for others.   We wanted something rugged, durable, and stylish.  Everything about this gift we chose as a careful metaphor for the next ten years. 

It may seem silly to attribute so much meaning to a shoe, but all the details in this gift-choosing were for a reason.  We wanted something practical and tangible to move forward in.  Marriage is never easy.  It is difficult terrain in every way unimaginable to starry-eyed 20-year olds eating at Olive Garden. We bring everything we have been shaped by into relationship with another shaped individual.  And, God, it is exhausting and wonderful to discover who we are together.  Fifteen years in, you can eat at a mediocre chain restaurant and laugh hard because life is magical and funny and heartbreaking and perfectly imperfect.  And together, you know the deeper rhythms of life and look forward to what the next ten, fifteen, and twenty years will teach.  We are wiser, perhaps, only because we know there is still more.  More to learn, to endure, to embrace, to forgive, to love. 

I hope my boots look super worn-in ten or fifteen years from now.  I hope the creases and frayed stitching and scuff marks tell a good story.  I know they will be more beautiful down the road, wrecked and comfortable and filled with miles of adventure.  And I’m super happy that I share this life with a guy who knows I appreciate a good metaphor and a great pair of boots.


  
*This is not a paid endorsement for these shoes.  I just love everything about this company and their product.

Check out the Oliberte site here. 
The boots are even more beautiful in person.

11 comments:

  1. So beautiful to read. I know what you mean about thinking of people who've reached a certain milestone as being so much ahead of you in life. It's funny how quickly it comes round isn't it :D

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    1. YES!! It is!! Definitely cool to be there ourselves now! <3 xx

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  2. Gorgeous post Krista. Congrats to you two cool kids on your amazing marriage journey so far! We hit 22 years this year, and I still feel like that fresh young faced kiddo who married my handsome beau. We hit some rocky bits, but stayed and worked it through together. We are happier and closer than we ever have been for doing so. Marriage IS a journey and not always a straight path, but we meant our marriage vows and there's so much joy working through the trials and sticking together. We are children of the 'instant & disposable' generation. But marriage does not fall under that category 😘 Bless you both with a long and happy marriage xoxo

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    1. LOVE everything you said there, Wendy! So true. The work is worth it.
      Congrats to you both on 22 years! That is wonderful!!! <3

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    2. Thanks hun. I think it's pretty wonderful too :)

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  3. Yep, it happened just as I said it would. I was there.....listen I adore and love my hubby in all his city ways and I hope he can get to his roots a little deeper wearing boots like these with a wife like me. I'm quite rootsy already and being twelve + years in love I too look forward to our future, like later today when I GET to see and permanently date my boo (October pun intended) again. The best part is telling him daily how much I appreciate how easy he makes life. I love love!

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    1. Juan is a Jordans guy:)!! Kinda like boots, just way cooler and more colorful:D.
      Love you both. In boots or Jordans.

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  4. Congrats :) We celebrate next year our 13.th wedding year :) The German word EHE means marriage and in christian family you say Ehepartner (means husband or wife) and between stay the H for Herr (Lord)... So it means that man and woman find together an the lord will help through all the marriage time... He is strong, wise and he is a guide for both. If the marriage is built to the lord so you have a amazing fundament and it will hold through a storm :) Hope you can understand what I will say, because I still learn English :) Hugs Ute (beru-crafts))

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    1. I understand and love all that you said Ute!! Thank you for sharing it with me-- what a beautiful word!!
      Hugs and love <3

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